Oh,
the
bondage of the sequel! Consider
Toy Story 2, or Beethoven’s Seventh, or England’s 1970
FIFA
World Cup performance. Are postcedents necessarily
inferior to their antecedents?
Likewise, is Jordan Peterson’s Beyond Order: 12 More
Rules for Life poorer than its 2018 predecessor, 12
Rules for Life? Or
is this prequel/sequel all a mark of lazy marketing? Is Peterson’s Yet
Another Dozen Rules already in the wings on a hard disc,
ready to appear in 2024? Am
I being snarky? Not
really because Peterson’s last two books were derived from a
list of 42 rules originally published on the Quora website a
decade or so ago. Plenty
more material there.
Since
the
2018 appearance of his storming, blockbuster book, 12 Rules
for Life, with its 5 million sales and 40-language
translations, where has Jordan Peterson been hiding? Apparently mostly in
bed and in hospitals. The
unprecedented demands for both his YouTube and personal
appearances, lectures, interviews, travel, and so on, have taken
their toll together with a distressed immune system. The poor man has been
ill, seriously ill. Even
now, in March 2021, he reckons he is running at only about 5%.
Overture
The
first
14 pages of Beyond Order, recount the recent medical
disasters endured by Peterson and his family. First, his daughter,
Mikhaila, had her damaged ankle replaced. Two months later, his
wife, Tammy, had surgery for kidney cancer and eventually had
one removed together with some of her lymphatic system. Then, from the start
of 2017, Peterson’s health ‘fell apart’ after eating something
that caused an autoimmune reaction. As a result he
suffered with anxiety, low blood pressure and insomnia and was
prescribed the relatively harmless antianxiety drug,
benzodiazepine. It
was a therapeutic catastrophe.
For almost three years he was on increasing doses. In May 2019, he was
weaned off benzo and put on ketamine for depression. Instead of cure, he
endured ‘two 90-minute trips to hell’. Benzodiazepine
withdrawal symptoms returned –
beyond anxiety, uncontrollable restlessness and thoughts of
self-destruction. So
he restarted benzodiazepine plus an antidepressant – he was
exhausted.
For
the
next four months he was confined in a US special clinic before
going home, ‘much the worse for wear’ and onto a Toronto
hospital and a dose of double pneumonia. He was now desperately
sick. In January
2020, he left for an intensive care unit in Moscow where he was
subjected to a medically-induced coma. He moved to a rehab
unit in Moscow where he had to relearn motor skills, like how to
walk again. He
returned to Florida to be weaned off the Russian medications,
but his condition worsened so he spent time at another
specialist clinic, this time in Serbia.
Reflecting
on
those three years of dreadfulness, Peterson wonders (p. xxiii)
if ‘… we would all be more able to deal with uncertainty, the
horrors of nature, the tyranny of culture, and the malevolence
of ourselves and others if we were better and more courageous
people?’
Following
that
sorry catalogue of the Petersons’ health problems, Jordan weighs
in (p. xxiv) with the pertinent question, ‘Why Beyond
Order?’ He
answers, ‘It is simple, in some regard. Order is explored
territory. We are
in order when the actions we deem appropriate produce the
results we aim at. Nonetheless,
all states of order, no matter how secure and comfortable, have
their flaws.’ And
(p. xxv), ‘Whatever is not touched by the new stagnates, and it
is certainly the case that a life without curiosity – that
instinct pushing us out into the unknown – would be a
much-diminished form of existence.
What is new is also what is exciting, compelling and
provocative …’ And,
‘Unlike my previous book, Beyond Order explores as its
overarching theme how the dangers of too much security and
control might be profitably avoided. Because what we
understand is insufficient … we need to keep one foot within
order while stretching the other tentatively into the beyond.’ In other words, too
much order is bad, more chaos is good, if carefully understood
and managed. While
Peterson’s 12 Rules concentrated on remedying the
consequences of too much chaos, Beyond Order is the
antidote, the corrective, namely some chaos.
RULE
I Do not
carelessly denigrate social institutions or creative
achievement.
It
comes
as no surprise that Peterson, as the practising psychologist and
lecturer, recommends talking – it’s his job. Yet he is adamant (p.
3), ‘… people depend on constant communication with others to
keep their minds organized.
We all need to think to keep things straight, but we
mostly think by talking.’ That
is a debateable proposition.
Both order and creativity often come as a result of
solitude in a room, a desert, a foreign country. Nevertheless, Peterson
is mostly correct with his adage, ‘We need to talk – both to
remember and to forget.’
He
recounts
(p. 3) the case of one of his patients, a destitute man
disconnected from the world.
‘My client desperately needed someone to listen to him’
and ‘He also needed to be fully part of additional, larger and
more complex social groups.’
Peterson reckons he had, ‘… fallen prey to the temptation
to denigrate the value of interpersonal interactions and
relationships because of his history of isolation and harsh
treatment.’ In the
end, ‘… he learned the ropes and joined the world.’ This is a grand plug
for married, family and church life, where communication and
community are (usually) customary.
Peterson
moves
on (p. 4) to two of his heroes, Sigmund Freud and Carl Jung –
who else would you expect from the practising psychologist? When considering
sanity, the former is all about id, ego and superego, while the
latter is about shadow, animus and self. Whatever their
differences, both men agreed that these various subentities, ‘…
exist in the interior of the person.’ Yet why, asks
Peterson, discount the wisdom and guidance exterior to the
person that are embedded in the social world? Such signs and
guideposts in the community can help keep us sane. We need such company
to test ourselves, our ideas, our aims, and so on. In Peterson’s droll
words (p. 5), ‘Simply put: we outsource the problem of sanity.’
And
where
do we begin this life journey?
At the bottom of the hierarchy. [I knew it would not
be long before that word, the star of 12 Rules, popped
up. By the way, it
seems that ‘proclivity’ is Peterson’s neoteric word used
throughout this book. And
incidentally, it is on p. 19 that Jesus, Peterson’s uncertain
hero, gets a modest mention as ’newborn in a lowly manger’]. And while at the
bottom of the hierarchy, we begin by becoming a beginner, a
fool. As Peterson
advises (p. 18), ‘There are others with expertise and knowledge
greater than yours – befriend them. ‘No one unwilling to
be a foolish beginner can learn.’
But we also need communication with peers in mutual
bonding. As
Peterson notes (p. 21), ‘It is good to be a beginner, but it is
good of a different sort to be an equal among equals.’ Those who give more,
receive more, echoing something of Acts 20:35. And if this hierarchy
has a bottom and middle there will presumably be a top. Such top dogs should
be characterised, not by tyrannical power, but by authority,
which when allied with ability, equals competence. Oh, for such bosses!
What
about
the structures and the rule of these hierarchies? When do we simply
follow convention and when do we reject the requirements of the
collective? According
to Peterson (p. 30), we need, ‘… to distinguish between a
hierarchy that is functional and productive … and the degenerate
shell of a once-great institution.’ Herein are the
conservatives versus the radicals.
The former (and typically evangelical Christians?) can
stymy creative transformations, while the latter tend to
discount well-founded institutions. ‘How do we establish a
balance between reasonable conservatism and revitalizing
creativity?’ We
need both. Hence
the need for rules to keep the balance in tension, to strain
against the boundaries. Rules,
‘… therefore not only ensure social harmony and physiological
stability, they make the creativity that renews order possible’
(p. 36). Therefore,
Peterson concludes, ‘Intelligent and cautious conservatism and
careful and incisive change keep the world in order.’
And he brings in a new idea – instead of rules, he looks at
stories. ‘Stories’,
he insists (p. 37), ‘provide us with a broad template.’ ‘In stories, we
capture observations of the ideal personality. We tell tales about
success and failure in adventure and romance.’ ‘The good moves us
upward and ahead, and evil drags us backward and down. Great stories are
about characters in action, and so they mirror the unconscious
structures and processes they help us translate the intransigent
world of facts into sustainable, functional, reciprocal social
world of values.’ At
this point, when struggling with a novel problem, he even gives
a footnote nod to the ’What would Jesus do?’ movement as a
template.
Developing
the
theme that in great stories we glimpse the ideal personality,
the hero, Peterson gets, somewhat unexpectedly and
unconvincingly, diverted to the fictional heroes of Disney and J
K Rowling, including Pocahontas and Harry Potter. The upshot from both
these stories is (p. 43), ‘… follow the rules until you are
capable of being a shining exemplar of what they represent, but
break them when those very rules now constitute the most dire
impediment to the embodiment of their central virtues.’ In other words, keep
one foot in order and one in chaos. The more convincing
non-fictional stories with a hero are found in Luke 2:42-52 and
Luke 6:1-5. Peterson
uses them to demonstrate that Christ respected the rules, even
as a child he was a master of Jewish tradition, a conservative. But, as an adult, he
also broke the rules of the Sabbath, as a rebel. Here is the second
person of the Trinity, respectful of tradition (order) yet also
creating transformation (chaos).
To manage the duality is the challenge – the true hero
does both.
Do
not
carelessly denigrate social institutions or creative
achievement.
RULE
II Imagine who
you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.
This
section
opens (p. 52) with a good question, ‘How do you know who you
are?’, plus the more exciting thought of, who you could be. After all, ‘You are
something that is becoming.’
Peterson reasons that, ‘Everyone has the sense, I
believe, that there is more to them than they have yet allowed
to be realized.’ In
other words, consider your potential. Is it dormant, is it
obscured by illness, failure, indiscipline, even unwillingness
to face it? New
experiences release new abilities.
Peterson
considers
one of the great unforgettable stories is that of Moses and the
exodus of the Israelites from Egypt. Indeed, he has said
that his dream is to write a book on Exodus. He states (p. 54)
that, ‘The biblical story of Exodus is properly regarded as
archetypical (or paradigmatic or foundational) by
psychoanalytical and religious thinkers alike, because it
represents an example of psychological and social transformation
that cannot be improved upon.’
Furthermore, he thinks that, ‘It emerged as a product of
imagination and has been transformed by constant collective
retelling and reworking into an ultimately meaningful form that
applies politically, economically, historically, personally, and
spiritually, all at the same time.’ That is a mighty big
statement, Dr Peterson.
Yet
Peterson
declares (p. 56) that, ‘Every society is already characterised
by patterned behaviour; otherwise it would be pure conflict and
no “society” at all. Since
the Israelites had something of a social order, a moral code,
with Moses as their judge, it paved the way for the reception of
the Ten Commandments (Exodus 18:13-18). Without that ordered
base (p. 57), ‘… the commandments simply could not have been
understood and communicated, much less obeyed.’
Each
Rule
of the book is preceded by an illustration. The one for Rule II is
Materia Prima, the ‘primal element’, inspired by Hermes
Trismegistus (1613). Peterson
attempts to explain the meaning of this ancient alchemical
woodcut’s image of the ‘primal element’. His assessment is (p.
59) that, ‘You can profitably consider that primal element the
potential we face when we confront the future …’ or ‘… the
information from which we build ourselves and the world.’ Like much of art
critique and interpretation, Peterson’s attempt becomes fairly
far-fetched. The
alchemists considered the winged sphere as the ‘round chaos’,
the container of the primordial element. Moving on (p. 62),
Peterson holds that the ‘round chaos’ appears in J K Rowling’s
Harry Potter series of books and films, as the round ball, the
Snitch in the game of Quidditch.
Really?
What
can
all this mean? Indeed? First, Peterson says
it exemplifies (p. 63) the notion behind Rule I, ‘… that the
true winner of any game is the person who plays fair’, that is,
by the rules. Second,
the winged god Mercury in the woodcut is, as the messenger, the
one who draws attention to something significant. Readers may, if they
wish, learn about the meanings of dragons, the Rebis, the Sun
and the Moon, Jupiter and Saturn, on pages 65 to 67.
Peterson
then
invites us (p. 67) to look at ‘who you could be’ from another
perspective. He
takes one of the earliest stories from the ancient Mesopotamian
Enuma Elish (When on High).
It is weird. There
is a primordial goddess, Tiamat – a female monster denoting
chaos, who marries Apsu – the eternal father signifying order. Their impulsive
children slay Apsu, which Peterson describes as, ‘… the careless
demolition of tradition is the invitation to the (re)emergence
of chaos. When
ignorance destroys culture, monsters will emerge.’ One of Tiamat’s
grandchildren is Marduk – ‘He can speak magic words’ and he is
cajoled to confront his terrible grandmother. He agrees, but only,
if victorious – as he proves to be – he can hold the Tablet of
Destinies, thus unifying the many Mesopotamian tribal gods into
one supreme god. Peterson
is enamoured and declares (p. 71), ‘It is in this manner that
this ancient story described the emergence of monotheism out of
polytheism.’ Christians
will find all this unappealing mythology. Nevertheless, Peterson
presses on and asks (p. 72), ‘What is God, in essence?’ and
adds, ‘That is a very difficult question.’ To which any
respectful evangelical Christian will reply, ‘No, it is not.’ Nevertheless, again
Peterson presses on describing the virtues of Marduk, the
Egyptian saviour-god, Horus, St George, St Patrick and St
Michael and into the mix comes Tolkien’s The Hobbit, the
ancient poem Beowulf, the story of Perseus and Medusa
and even sweet little Pinocchio.
All these heroes, according to Peterson, teach us (p. 76)
that, ’… if you have the vision and the courage (and a good
stout stick, when necessary), you can chase away the worst of
the snakes.’
Thankfully,
the
Bible’s historical accounts are more straight-forward, grounded
in time and space, and populated by real people.
Yet,
Peterson
does not give up. There
is more of Harry Potter and his friends, the shark from Jaws,
Bilbo, Prince Phillip, Virginia, Smaug, and others who make an
entrance. All these
(p. 81) ‘… constitute a tangible increase in the sophistication
of the image of evil’ – from snake (borrowed from the Genesis
account), to dragon, to “the greatest snake, is the evil that
lurks within”.’ ‘It
is also a harsh truth: predators devour, dragons lay waste,
chaos destroys.’ Peterson
takes up the image of the phoenix from the St George story and
introduces the concept of death and rebirth associating the
symbolism of this mere mythical fowl with the reality of the
unique saving work of Christ (p. 82). He sums it up thus,
‘It is also, equally, that element of the individual human
personality that must die and regenerate, as it learns,
painfully … with new and more complete knowledge. A voluntary
death-and-rebirth transformation – the change necessary to adapt
when terrible things emerge – is therefore a solution to the
potentially fatal rigidity of erroneous certainty, excessive
order and stultification.’
Whatever that is, it is not the heart of true
Christianity. Peterson
has missed the mark, again.
This
section
closes with a look at ‘how to act’. Acting is easier than
describing with words. It
could be via mimicry, imitation, drama or literature. Literate cultures can
write their stories. Peterson
comments (p. 84), ‘It is at this point, roughly, that myth and
ritual might be said to transform themselves into religion.’ He muses on the need
not only for local heroes, but also for a hero of heroes, a
meta-hero in a meta-world.
‘It is precisely this hyperreal meta-world that consists
of the continual interactions between chaos and order, which
eternally serve as the battleground between good and evil
characterizing the hero’ (p. 84).
Peterson
summarises
(p. 85), ‘Everyone requires a story to structure their
perceptions and actions in what would otherwise be the
overwhelming chaos of being.’
‘Every story requires a starting place that is not good
enough and an ending place that is better. Without it, everything
sinks into meaninglessness and boredom or degenerates and
spirals into terror, anxiety and pain.’
Then
it
is back to J K Rowling (p. 85).
‘The second volume of Rowling’s series proposes that
predatory evil can be overcome by the soul willing to die and be
reborn.’ That maybe
how Peterson interprets contemporary fiction. But he oversteps the
mark (p. 86) with, ‘The analogy with Christianity is obvious,
and the message, in essence, the same: The soul willing to
transform, as deeply as necessary, is the most effective enemy
of the demonic serpents of ideology and totalitarianism, in
their personal and social forms.’
Again, this is not the message of biblical Christianity.
In
admirable
Petersen fashion, he returns to his practical self and ends this
section (p. 86) with, ‘Aim at something. Pick the best target
you can currently conceptualize.
Stumble toward it. Notice
your errors and misconceptions along the way, face them, and
correct them. Voluntarily
confront what stands in your way.
The way – that is the path of life, the meaningful path
of life, the straight and narrow path that constitutes the very
border between order and chaos, and the traversing of which
brings then into balance.’
Hooray, Peterson has finally returned to planet Earth.
Imagine
who
you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.
RULE
III Do not hide
unwanted things in the fog.
Here
is
an interesting fact – if something, seemingly trivial annoys you
about your spouse every day, it will be repeated 15,000 times
over a 40-year marriage. That
should motivate improvement in your marriage! Peterson says that
such minor irritations are not trivial, though they may continue
without comment, they are important. Moreover, they need a
solution. Do not
pretend to be happy, do not avoid confrontation and simply drift
along. Do not keep
silent. He says (p.
94), ‘… stem the entropic tide, and keep catastrophe – familiar
and social alike – at bay.’
His basic dictum, ‘Have the fight’ may initially seem
shocking and cannot be regarded as a universal fix. But what is the
alternative? Drifting
into a false peace.
This
is
Peterson’s introduction to a bigger problem, namely the
avoidance of information prompted by negative emotions. This is deception,
specifically self-deception.
We can think one thing and do the opposite – occasionally
we feel love and hate at the same time. This is technically
called performance contradiction.
Freud, of course, had a view. However, Peterson
thinks (p. 97) that the Austrian maestro was wrong on two
counts. First, he
‘… failed to notice that sins of omission contributed to mental
illness as much as, or more than, the sins of commission.’ ‘People generally
believe that actively doing something bad (that is the sin of
commission) is, on average, worse than passively not doing
something good (that is the sin of omission). Perhaps this is
because there are always good things we are not doing.’
Second,
Peterson
is critical because, ‘Freud assumed that things experienced are
things understood.’ ‘However’,
he continues, ‘neither reality nor our processing of reality is
as objective or articulated as Freud presupposed.’
What
is
this alleged fog of Rule III?
‘Imagine’, Peterson says on p. 100, ‘that you are afraid. You have reason to be. You are afraid of
yourself. You are
afraid of other people. You
are afraid of the world. The
knowledge you have gained of yourself, other people and the
world has embittered rather than enlightened. You have been
betrayed, hurt, and disappointed.
The last thing you want is to know more. Better, as well, to
avoid thinking too much (or at all) about what could be. When ignorance is
bliss, after all, ‘tis folly to be wise.’
Peterson
asks
(p.102), ‘Your strategy, under such conditions?’ And he answers (p.
103), ‘If you make what you want clear and commit yourself to
its pursuit, you may fail.
But if you do not make what you want clear, then you will
certainly fail. You
cannot hit a target that you refuse to see.’ ‘So, what might you do
– what should you do – as an alternative to hiding things in the
fog?’ ‘Admit
your feelings’ is the simple, but tricky remedy (p. 104). It may be embarrassing
and unsettling, and it needs to be based on courage rather than
naivete, but that is the way to start dispersing the fog.
And
the
past plays a part here. According
to Peterson (p. 106), ‘We use our past effectively when it helps
us repeat desirable – and avoid repeating undesirable –
experiences. We
want to know what happened but, more importantly, we want to
know why. Why
is wisdom. Why
enables us to avoid making the same mistake again and again.’ And such wisdom trumps
wilful blindness.
Peterson
summarises
(p. 108), ‘Dark, unexamined motivations – bred by failure,
amplified by frustration … will impoverish your life, your
community, your nation, and the world.’ But, ‘With careful
searching, with careful attention, you might tip the balance
toward opportunity and against obstacle sufficiently so that
life is clearly worth living, despite its fragility and
suffering.’
Do
not
hide unwanted things in the fog.
RULE
IV Notice that
opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated.
Peterson
takes
us to the world of work and his opening advice (p. 111) is,
‘Make yourself invaluable’ to which, in times of high
unemployment, he might have inserted ‘and indispensable’. You ask, ‘How?’ Peterson replies (p.
112), ‘… just do the useful things no one else is doing’, it
will make you ‘a veritable lynchpin’. Peterson’s books,
videos and lectures are recurringly themed with finding
‘meaning’ (rather than mere happiness) in life. Here he comes again
(p. 113), ‘It appears that the meaning that most effectively
sustains life is to be found in the adoption of responsibility.’ And on p. 114, ‘People
need meaning, but problems also need solving’, so you need to
find something of significance, ‘something worth confronting and
taking on.’ ‘By
taking responsibility, we can find a meaningful path.’
But
remember
another of Peterson’s grand themes – ‘life is suffering’. And that can be
inadvertently brought on because people do not sufficiently
define what they want for themselves and for others. As Peterson states (p.
115), ‘It is impossible to hit a target, after all, unless you
aim at it’ and ‘… to remain passive in the face of life, even if
you excuse your inaction as a means of avoiding error – that is
a major mistake.’ Using
Peter Pan as his paradigm, Peterson shows how refusing to grow
up, to take on responsibility diminishes that sought-after
meaning. The
author’s summary comes on p. 117, ‘You must sacrifice something
of your manifold potential in exchange for something real in
life. Aim at
something. Discipline
yourself. Or suffer
the consequence. And
what is that consequence? All
the suffering of life, with none of the meaning. Is there a better
description of hell?’
Indeed,
one
of the universal givens in mental healthcare is, ‘…that
voluntary confrontation with a feared, hated, or despised
obstacle is curative. We
become stronger by voluntarily facing what impedes our necessary
progress’ (p. 121). So,
how can we gauge a proper challenge? Peterson lists (p.
122) a number of tests. ‘Does
what you are attempting compel you forward, without being too
frightening? Does
it grip your interest, without crushing you? Does it eliminate the
burden of time passing? Does
it serve those you love and, perhaps, even bring some good to
your enemies? The
potential effects of Peterson’s ‘medicine’ are assessed on p.
123, ‘When you face a challenge, you grapple with the world and
inform yourself. This
makes you more than you are.
It makes you increasingly into who you could be.’
We
have
a minimum moral duty to care for yourself. Of course, the danger
is that that can develop into self-interest, absorbed merely by
the here and now. And
such narrow self-interest is destined to be non-productive. Therefore, Peterson
wants us to move on, to include thoughts about the future – that
is a form of social, rather than selfish, responsibility. Herein is another of
Peterson’s maxims (p. 127) – you should not pursue
happiness, because ‘”happy” in a right-now thing.’ But ‘now is by no
means everything, and unfortunately, everything must be
considered, at least insofar as you are able.’ Similarly, with
pleasure, ‘attainment is unreliable’ (p. 129). So, ‘What is a truly
reliable source of positive emotion?’ Peterson asks (p.129). ‘The answer is that
people experience positive emotion in relationship to the pursuit
of a valuable goal.’ You
aim at something, you develop a strategy, you implement it, you
observe that it is working.
‘That is what produces the most reliable positive
emotion.’ There is,
‘… no happiness in the absence of responsibility’ (p. 129). ‘We are stuck with it. There is no escaping
from the future … the right attitude is to turn round
voluntarily and confront it.
That works’ (p. 130).
And
after
that confrontation, you lay out a much larger-scale, longer-term
goal. Peterson
refers to it (p. 130) as, ‘Pick up the extra weight.’ To reverse Peterson’s
title adage for this chapter, where responsibility has been
abdicated, opportunity lurks.
As you engage with yourself and others, ‘… you will begin
to develop a clear picture of what is wrong – and, by
implication, of what is right.
Right is not least the opposite of wrong – and wrong is
in some clear sense more blatant and obvious.’ The outcome (p. 132)
should be, ‘I am going to live my life properly. I am going to aim at
the good.’ ‘You are
no longer a house divided against itself’ and ‘You are standing
solidly on a firm foundation’ (p. 133). Moreover, (p. 134),
‘You positively need to be occupied with something weighty,
deep, profound, and difficult.’
And, ‘Your life becomes meaningful in precise proportion
to the depths of the responsibility you are willing to
shoulder.’ ‘But I
can only manage the small tasks’ you complain. Peterson responds with
the bricklayer analogy (p. 134).
The bricklayer monotonously lays his bricks, one after
another, but he may be building a wall, a part of a building,
perhaps even a cathedral. Peterson
suggests it may be that you are ‘not aiming high enough’. Make sure ‘You are on a
meaningful path.’
But
that
path has bumps. You
may become disenchanted, irritated, even angry. According to Peterson
(p. 136), ‘That very disenchantment, however, can serve as the
indicator of destiny. It
speaks of abdicated responsibility – of things left undone, of
things that still need to be done.’ ‘The part of you that
is oriented toward the highest good is pointing out the
disjunction between the ideal you can imagine … and the reality
you are experiencing.’ Peterson’s
comment, ‘…there is something wrong that needs to be set right –
and, perhaps, by you.’
This
section
ends with another look at Abraham (Genesis 12:1-3), that late
bloomer, who, ‘… has been hanging around his father’s tent for
far too many years.’ The
call of God comes. And
it is not a call to happiness.
It is a call to ‘famine, war and domestic strife.’ ‘It is the call to the
action and adventure that make up a real life’ (p. 137). ‘That is where the
life that is worth living is to be eternally found – and where
you can find it, personally, if only you are willing’ (p. 138).
Notice
that
opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated.
RULE
V Do not do what
you hate.
We
are
back in the workplace. Is
time there wasted on pointless, trivial, conscious-busting
matters? Of course! So here is Peterson’s
opening question (p. 142), ‘When do you stop participating in a
worrisome process that you see, or think you see, unfolding in
front of you?’
He
rehearses
the case of a lady client, who, while working for a corporation,
got drawn into a long dispute about the term ‘flip chart’. Unbelievably some
employees found it derogatory as a term for a Filipino. The company
administrators prolonged the discussion and it degenerated into
a contest of diversity, inclusivity and equity – the ‘veritable
mantras for the departments of Human Resources’ (p. 143) – with
the prospect that some words would be banned.
The
client
was perturbed. She
felt subject to the ‘engines of corporate indoctrination and
ideological propaganda’ (p. 143).
‘We do the things we do because we think those things are
important, compared to all the other things that could be
important. That
worthiness motivates us to act’ (p. 144). When we are called
upon to do hateful and stupid things we are forced to act
against our values, our “self”.
Peterson explains (p. 145), somewhat poetically, ‘That
“self” – that integrated psyche – is in truth the ark that
shelters us when the storms gather and the water rises. To act in violation of
its precepts – its fundamental beliefs – is to run our own ship
onto the shoals of destruction.’
So,
what
did she do about the demoralizing state in which she found
herself?’ She
developed a rear-guard action.
She began to branch out, she developed her services as a
conference presenter, speaking against the kind of pseudoscience
characteristically employed by Human Resources departments. She also worked as a
journalist for a newspaper in Albania, her country of origin. ‘What price did she
pay for her decision to stand up and fight?’ (p. 147). There was fear of
reprisal, the office ideology meant she lost interest in her
company job, which made her feel inadequate and cowardly. But she gained by her
mastery of the literature the ability to present it. ‘This all meant the
facing of her fear – of inaction, as well as action.’ And she acquired (p.
147), ‘... an expansion of personality and competence.’
So
what
would constitute a sensible plan of resolution? As Peterson points out
(p. 147), ‘Tyranny grows slowly, and asks us to retreat in
comparatively tiny steps. But
each retreat increases the possibility of the next retreat.’ And, ‘Better to stand
forward, awake, when the costs are low’ (p. 148). And, ‘… if you are
concerned with leading a moral and careful life: if you do not
object when the transgressions against your conscience are
minor, why presume that you will not willfully participate when
the transgressions get truly out of hand?’ (p. 148).
Peterson
says
(p. 148) that, ‘Part of moving Beyond Order is
understanding that your conscience has a primary claim on your
action.’ ‘If you
decide to stand up and refuse a command, if you do something of
which others disapprove but you firmly believe to be correct,
you must be in a position to trust yourself.’
What
about
our Albanian heroine? She
secured other jobs, but was eventually laid off during a
corporate reorganization. Peterson
reports (p. 149), ‘But her attempts to fight back – her work
debunking pseudoscientific theories; her work as a journalist –
helped buttress her against depression and bolster her
self-regard.’ In
other words (p. 149), ‘If you wish instead to be engaged in a
great enterprise – even if you regard yourself as a mere cog –
you are required not to do things you hate. Otherwise, nature
hides her face, society stultifies, and you remain a marionette,
with your strings pulled by demonic forces operated behind the
scenes – and one more thing: it is your fault.’
Then
some
practicalities from Peterson (p. 151), ‘Perhaps you should be
positioning yourself for a lateral move – into another job, for
example, noting as you may, ‘This occupation is deadening my
soul, and that is truly not for me. It is time to take the
painstaking steps necessary to organize my CV, and to engage in
the difficult, demanding, and often unrewarding search for a new
job.’ Yet as
Peterson reminds us, ‘But you have to be successful only once.’
Peterson
raise
three concerns. First,
‘I might get fired.’ He
says, ‘Well, prepare now to seek out and ready yourself for
another job’ (p. 151). Second,
‘I am afraid to move on.’ Peterson
says, ‘Afraid in comparison to continuing in a job where the
center of your being is at stake …?’ Third, ‘Perhaps no one
else would want me.’ Peterson
says, ‘Well, the rejection rate for new job applications is
extraordinarily high. I
tell my clients to assume 50:1, so their expectations are set
properly’ (p. 152). Of
course, it is tough. But
a year or more of applying for jobs is, ‘… much less than a
lifetime of misery and downward trajectory. But it is not nothing. You need to fortify
yourself for it, plan, and garner support from people who
understand what you are up to …’
‘ … staying where you should not be may be the worst-case
situation: one that drags you out and kills you slowly over
decades. That is
not a good death’ (p. 153).
And Peterson quotes that old, but apposite, proverb, ‘If
you must cut off a cat’s tail, do not do it half an inch at a
time.’
Do
not
do what you hate.
RULE
VI Abandon
ideology.
Here,
Peterson
takes a convincing swipe at tyrants, ideologues, cults, lazy
intellectuals and several others.
He starts by wondering at the success of his recent
books, YouTube videos, lectures, podcasts, and so on. Their numerous
supporters lead him to think, ‘It seems that my work must be
addressing something that is missing in many people’s lives’ (p.
158). And, ‘… what
I say and write provides them with the words they need to
express things they already know, but are unable to articulate’
(p. 159). The
evidence is two-fold. First,
he meets individuals whose lives have been revolutionised by
Peterson input. Second,
the vast audiences who show up to his lectures. What does he want from
the individual? Rapt
attention. What
does he want from the audiences?
Nothing, silence, enthralled hearers.
And
there
is but one key topic he persistently covers here, there and
everywhere – responsibility.
As he says (p. 161), ‘You might even consider the
inculcation of responsibility the fundamental purpose of
society. But
something has gone wrong. We
have committed an error, or a series of errors. We have spent too much
time, for example (much of the last fifty years, clamoring about
rights, and we are no longer asking enough of the young people
we are socializing. We
have been telling them for decades to demand what they are owed
by society … when we should have been doing the opposite:
letting them know that the meaning that sustains life in all its
tragedy and disappointment is to be found in shouldering a noble
burden.’
‘How
has
this vulnerability, this susceptibility, come about?’, he asks. He highlights (p.
161), that Nietzsche, with his ‘God is dead’ slogan and his
correct fear, ‘… that all the Judeo-Christian values’ and, ‘…
the existence of a transcendent, all-powerful deity … had been
fatally challenged.’ The
upshot? ‘…
everything would soon fall apart.’
And two major corollaries would arise. First, Nietzsche and
Dostoevsky foresaw that communism would become attractive as an
alternative to either religion or nihilism. And the consequences
would be lethal. Second,
the central scientific axiom bequeathed by the Enlightenment,
namely, ‘… that reality is the exclusive domain of the objective
– poses a fatal challenge to the reality of the religious
experience’ (p.165).
Peterson
muses
and displays (p. 166) some of his religious colours. For instance, ‘We all
axiomatically assume the reality of our individual religious
experiences.’ They
have, ‘… a deep underlying biological and physical structure.’ And, ‘… religious
function has enough commonality across people to make us at
least understand what “religious experience” means.’ And Peterson adds,
perhaps tellingly, ‘… particularly if we have had a taste of it
at some point in life.’ What
does all this imply? ‘It
may well be, therefore, that the true meaning of life is not to
be found in what is objective, but in what is subjective.’
Peterson
returns
(p. 167) to those dreadful consequences of totalitarianism, be
they in Russia, China, Hitler’s Germany, or the dekulakization
of the newly-established Soviet Union. The latter consisted
of jealous murderers taking the land of competent Ukrainian
farmers and causing the starvation of 6 million kulaks in the
1930s. Where was
the promised utopia?
And
so
Peterson segues (p. 168) to ideologues and the creation of
various isms –
socialism, feminism, environmentalism, and so on. He outlines the common
pattern of growth. ‘The
ideologue begins by selecting a few abstractions in whose
low-resolution representations hide large, undifferentiated
chunks of the world.’ The
use of single terms, such as ‘the economy’ or ‘the nation’ serve
to hypersimplify complex phenomena. Then an evildoer is
added to focus opposition, plus a few explanatory principles,
which are negative and unlikely to be challenged by the
ideologue’s followers. Next,
an ad-hoc theory that ensures every other issue is secondary,
and finally a school of thought emerges. As Peterson states (p.
170), ‘Incompetent and corrupt intellectuals thrive on such
activity.’ Followers
follow, keen to join a new, potentially-dominant hierarchy. Some subtle wordplay
ensues so that factors that initially ‘contribute to’ the
problem, begin to ‘affect’ the problem, and finally ‘cause’ the
problem. In
Peterson’s words (p. 171), ‘The cult has already begun.’
Contrasting
and
comparing ideologues and fundamentalists, Peterson (p. 173)
considers the former to be worse because, ‘… ideologues lay
claim to rationality itself.
So, they try to justify their claims as logical and
thoughtful. At
least the fundamentalists admit devotion to something they just
believe arbitrarily.’ Hold
on a minute, Jordan! But
he does admit, ‘They are a lot more honest. Furthermore,
fundamentalists are bound by a relationship with the
transcendent. What
this means is that God, the center of their moral universe,
remains outside and above complete understanding, according to
the fundamentalist’s own creed.’
‘For the ideologue, however, nothing remains outside
understanding or mastery. An
ideological theory explains everything: all the past, all the
present, and all the future.’
Peterson asks, ‘The moral of the story?’ ‘Beware of
intellectuals who make monotheism out of their theories of
motivation’ and, ‘… single variable causes for diverse, complex
problems.’
Peterson
examines
(p. 174) another facet of ideology. Ressentiment is
hostile resentment towards the people receiving success and high
status from failure of a system.
The successful are deemed exploitative and corrupt
beneficiaries. Once
that premise is accepted, attacks on the successful can be
morally justified. Moreover,
ideologues always consider the victims are innocent and the
perpetrators guilty. According
to Peterson (p. 175), ‘To take the path of ressentiment is to
risk tremendous bitterness.
This is in no small part a consequence of identifying the
enemy without rather than within.’
And, (p. 176), ‘This is a terrible trap: once the source
of evil has been identified, it becomes the duty of the
righteous to eradicate it.’
And he continues rightly, ‘It is much safer morally to
look to yourself for the errors of the world, at least to the
degree to which someone honest and free of willful blindness
might consider.’ Herein,
a reminder of those optical planks and specks (Matthew 7:3-5). ‘It is (p. 177) much
more psychologically appropriate (and much less dangerous
socially) to assume that you are the enemy – that it is your
weaknesses and insufficiencies that are damaging the world.’ By contrast, the
ideologues’ concepts are too simple, too broad, too low
resolution. Peterson’s
closing advice (p. 177) is to, ‘… begin to address and consider
smaller, more precisely defined problems.’ And he gives practical
Petersonesque guidance. ‘Have
some humility. Clean
up your bedroom. Take
care of your family. Follow
you conscience. Straighten
up your life. Find
something productive and interesting to do and commit to it …
abandon ideology.’
Abandon
ideology.
RULE
VII Work as hard
as you possibly can on at least one thing and see what
happens.
Peterson
(p.
181) puts on his analogy hat – heat and pressure can sometimes
turn dull coal into bright diamonds. People too can be pure
and, when properly aligned, they glitter. But many are often not
properly aligned. Just
as a divided house cannot stand, ‘Likewise a poorly integrated
person cannot hold himself together (p. 182).’ And, (p. 183), ‘Lack
of internal union also makes itself known in the increased
suffering, magnification of anxiety, absence of motivation, and
lack of pleasure that accompany indecision and uncertainty.’ The adverse
consequences are psychological, physical and social. But, ‘Clear goals
limit and simplify the world.’
This sounds just like Peterson of old (p. 184), ‘To move
forward with resolve, it is necessary to be organized’ and ‘If
you aim at nothing, you have nowhere to go, nothing to do, and
nothing of high value in your life.’ ‘But very often
failure is a consequence of insufficient single-mindedness,
elaborate but pointless rationalization, and rejection of
responsibility. And
little good comes of that’ (p. 187). Therefore, do not
drift. ‘Those who
do not choose a direction are lost’ (p. 188) and ‘… the worst
decision of all is none.’
Self-discipline
begins
at an early age. Children
initially
need parental guidance to teach them problem solving, then peers
and game playing to foster the process of integration. ‘This can be
interpreted as a sacrifice of individuality … but it is much
more accurately development of individuality’ (p. 189). ‘The payoff for such
development is, of course, the security of social inclusion, and
the pleasure of the game.’
‘This, it should be noted, is not repression.’ Incidentally, children
will not be damaged by such proper, self-integrating,
socializing discipline – it is the foundation of civilisation. The child then moves
on to engage in the more serious games of employment and ‘the
dance of the sexes’ to become, ‘… a socially sophisticated,
productive, and psychologically healthy adult, capable of true
reciprocity’ (p. 192).
Peterson
recognises
(p. 193) that rules are needed for both games and civilisations. Where does he turn for
elaboration? Why,
to the gospel of Mark, of course!
There he invokes, ‘… what are among the most influential
Rules of the Game ever formulated – the Mosaic Ten
Commandments.’ He
even lists them (p. 194) and briefly, and interestingly,
exegetes them. They
are, he suggests (p. 195), ‘… a minimum set of rules for a
stable society – an iterable social game.’ They are, ‘… rules
established in the book of Exodus, and part of that
unforgettable story.’ Peterson
turns to an additional prospect, ‘The core idea is this:
subjugate yourself voluntarily to a set of socially determined
rules – those with some tradition in their formulation – and a
unity that transcends the rules will emerge’ (p. 195). Then Mark’s account of
Christ overturning the tables of the money changers and
especially Mark 11:18 and 12:13 along with Mark 12:28-34 are
assessed, including that most difficult and treacherous
question, ‘Which is the first commandment of all?’ ‘What does all this
mean?’, asks Peterson (p. 196).
He responds that, ’The personality integrated by
disciplined adherence to a set of appropriate rules is
simultaneously guided by or imitating the highest possible
ideal.’ ‘That
ideal, according to Christ’s answer is something singular (the
“one Lord”), thoroughly embodied (loved with “all thy heart,”
“soul,” “understanding,” and “strength”), and then manifested as
a love that is identical for self and all mankind.’ Peterson continues (p.
197), ‘Psychologically speaking, Christ is a representation, or
an embodiment, of the mastery of dogma and the (consequent)
emergence of spirit. Spirit
is the creative force that gives rise to what becomes dogma,
with time.’ This is
mostly unclear – Peterson is clearly a psychologist and not a
theologian. What is
the core of his argument? He
continues, ‘Christ therefore presents Himself as both the
product of tradition, and the very thing that creates and
transforms it.’ I’m
befuddled – this is not the second person of the Trinity of whom
the Bible speaks so plainly.
Is this a case of forcing Scripture to fit a
predetermined theory? Whatever,
thankfully Peterson rapidly shifts back to his own forte, ‘If
you work as hard as you can on one thing, you will change.’ And, the author
defines (p.198) that ‘one thing’,‘It is the very Word of truth,
upon whose function all habitable order, wrenched out of chaos,
eternally depends.’ Let’s
move on!
Work
as
hard as you possibly can on at least one thing and see what
happens.
RULE
VIII Try to make
one room in your home as beautiful as possible.
Peterson
returns
(p. 201) to a favourite directive – clean your room. And this time there is
an addendum – make it beautiful.
Though he admits (p. 202) that, ‘Making something
beautiful is difficult, but it is amazingly worthwhile.’ So, for starters, he
entreats (p. 203), ‘Buy a piece of art. Find one that speaks to
you and make the purchase.’
That’s a nice idea, but his assessment that, ‘… art is a
window into the transcendent’ is a more dubious notion. And so our author is
off on a jaunt into the world of art. It is not, he says, ‘…
an option, or a luxury, or worse, an affectation. Art is the bedrock of
culture itself.’ ‘We
live by beauty. We
live by literature. We
live by art.’ ‘…
and beauty can help us appreciate the wonder of Being and
motivate us to seek gratitude when we might otherwise be prone
to destructive resentment’ (p. 204).
As
a
child, Peterson knew his immediate neighbourhood in great
detail. Now, as a
man, he is mostly unaware of the houses on his street. He has seen houses
before, here, there and everywhere. But this is for him a
real loss. ‘And (p.
205) a very deep feeling of belonging is missing in some
important way because of that.’
The same sort of loss occurred with his young children
growing up while Peterson was establishing his career – ‘I knew
perfectly well that I was missing out on beauty and meaning and
engagement’ (p. 206). While
concentrating
on his future, he was missing out on his present. He embraces germane
sections from William Wordsworth’s Ode: Intimations of
Mortality and from William Blake’s Auguries of
Innocence and marvels at Van Gogh’s Irises and
includes two verses from Walt Whitman’s Song of Myself. As Peterson (p. 210)
insists, ‘To share in the artist’s perception reunites us with
the source of inspiration that can rekindle our delight in the
world, even if the drudgery and repetition of daily life has
reduced what we see to the narrowest and most pragmatic of
visions.’ And he
concludes (p. 211), ‘All this is very frightening. It is frightening to
perceive the shells of ourselves that we have become.’
Peterson
(p.
212) states, ‘Your world is known territory, surrounded by the
relatively unknown, surrounded by the absolutely unknown –
surrounded, even more distantly, by the absolutely unknowable.’ So, how do we gain new
information, new knowledge?
‘Knowledge must pass through many stages of analysis …
before it becomes, let us say, commonplace’ (p. 213). You are unexpectedly
startled. The first
stage is reflex action – you freeze. Second, your heart
rate rises. Third,
your imagination kicks in.
Fourth, the noise is deemed insignificant and you return
from the unknown to the known.
‘Artists’, according to p. 214, ‘are the people who stand
on the frontier of the transformation of the unknown into
knowledge’, maybe by music, novels, dance or painting. ‘… artists are always
transforming chaos into order’ and ‘They are the initial
civilising agents’ (p. 215).
OK,
the
Petersons live in ‘a small semidetached house’ in Toronto,
(over)populated with paintings, particularly Soviet pieces
purchased on eBay. Thus
they have beautiful rooms and a beautiful house. Peterson and a chum
also tried to make his university office beautiful. They used sheets of
cherry plywood on the walls, Hammerite paint on the ceiling, a
Persian carpet on the floor, high-quality curtains and a decent
industrial desk. But
Peterson made one fatal error.
He spoke of his plans with a colleague, who said, ‘You
can’t do that.’ ‘What
do you mean?’ She
replied, ‘Well, if you do it, everyone else will want to do it.’ And threateningly, ‘Do
not push me on this’ (p. 222).
Peterson’s error – he had, sort of, asked for permission. He devised and
executed a Plan B, not as good as his Plan A, nevertheless,
colleagues and visitors were impressed. His office had become
a place of creativity and beauty.
[Incidentally, I did something similar, though far less
grandiose, to my university office – one weekend I had the
temerity to paint it primrose yellow instead of that humdrum
industrial buttermilk]. The
dénouement of Peterson’s creative rebellion was that his office
became a display office for visitors, ‘… to show them what kind
of creative freedom was possible at the University of Toronto’
(p. 223).
‘Artists
teach
people to see. It
is very hard to perceive the world. Beauty leads you back
to what you have lost. Beauty
reminds you of what remains forever immune to cynicism. Beauty beckons in a
manner that straightens your aim.
Many things make life worth living: love, play, courage,
gratitude, work, friendship, truth, grace, hope, virtue, and
responsibility. But
beauty is among the greatest of these’ (p. 226).
Try
to
make one room in your home as beautiful as possible.
RULE
IX If old
memories still upset you, write them down carefully and
completely.
Peterson
(p.
229) wants you to imagine you undertook some terrible action in
the past, or that you were the target of such an event. And you recall it with
terror or shame. Whether
you suffered because of self-betrayal or at the hands of others,
is not important. ‘What
does matter is that you do not desire any recurrence.’ ‘Learn from the past. Or repeat its horrors,
in imagination, endlessly’ (p. 230). Because (p. 231), ‘It
is a psychological truism that anything sufficiently threatening
or harmful once encountered can never be forgotten if it has
never been understood.’ In
other words, ‘… we need to know where we are and where we are
going.’ ‘If you do
not know what roads you have traversed, it is difficult to
calculate where you are.’
Peterson
rightly
states (p. 231) that in life, ‘The successes are both confidence
building and exhilarating.
The obstacles and failures are, by contrast, anxiety
provoking, depressing and painful.
They indicate our profound ignorance.’ If we do not
understand with sufficient depth, we cannot draw the moral. Peterson issues a
severe demand (p. 232). ‘We
must rekindle every lost opportunity. We must repent for
missing the mark, meditate on our errors, acquire now what we
should have acquired then, and put ourselves back together.’ It is that old
instruction ‘to confront’.
But he adds, ‘And I am not saying this is always
possible.’ In other
words, for each past mistake that we have left unconfronted, we
pay the price as the inability to forget and in the emotion that
constitutes the pangs of conscience.
What
follows
are three cases overseen by Peterson. The first is an
apparently disturbing sexual abuse case when the client was just
four years old and the perpetrator, her cousin, was six. The victim, now in her
late twenties, still remembered the abuse as if she were that
young child – her memory of it had not altered as she matured. Peterson explains (p.
235) that she needed to update that memory. She was no longer at
risk. She could
reframe her story. She
could now regard it as the consequence of children’s curiosity,
maybe as a game of doctors and nurses. Peterson remembers (p.
235) that, ‘She could now see the event from the perspective of
an adult. This
freed her from much of the terror and shame still associated
with the memories, and it did so with remarkable rapidity. She confronted the
horrors of the past voluntarily, finding a causal explanation
that was much less traumatic.’
The
second
client (p. 236), ‘… was a young, gay African American man who
was suffering from an incomprehensible set of mental and
physical symptoms.’ A
psychiatrist had diagnosed him with schizophrenia after he
suffered from depression and anxiety and a permanent end to the
relationship with his boyfriend.
The latter event was four years earlier, and that was
regarded as a long time without moving on. He also suffered from
strange convulsive body movement while trying to sleep. Peterson asked him
what he thought was happening.
The man replied with a laugh (p. 238), ‘My family thinks
I am possessed, and I am not sure they are wrong.’ Peterson dismissed the
diagnosis of schizophrenia once he learned that the man had
mentioned his ‘possession’ to the investigative psychiatrist. He then thought it
might be a very severe form of sleep paralysis. He and his boyfriend
had had a serious fight and he was deeply troubled by the
violence. On
questioning, it turned out that his religious parents had taught
him as a child, ‘… that adults were literally God’s angels’ (p
.241). It was time
for him to grow up and discard his naivete. Peterson gave him some
books to convince him of man’s inhumanity to man. They seemed to do the
trick – he showed up to his next session looking older, wiser
and sadder. Peterson
diagnosed somatization disorder, whereby a person physically
represents his psychological symptoms – his contortions were
perhaps associated with his violent bust-up with his boyfriend. Hesitantly, Peterson
recommended hypnosis. ‘Where
is all this going?’, you may ask.
I did too. Well,
the client fell into a hypnotic trance, relived the violent
fight with his boyfriend and then revealed his fear that he
might have been killed – for years he had pushed that thought
out of his mind. Now
he had gained new knowledge from his unhelpful
‘compartmentalization’. His
contoured body movement during sleep were duplicates of his
defensive movements during the fight. He explained, (p.
248), ‘What really got to me in that fight was not our
disagreement about what future we wanted. It was not the
physical contact – the pushing and shoving. It was the fact that
he truly wished me harm. I
could see it in his face. His
look truly terrified me. I
could not handle it. But
I can understand it better now.’
Within a month his symptoms had disappeared completely. He had grown up and
confronted the reality of his own experience, as well as the
true nature of the cruel world.
Another
of
Peterson’s clients, a young man, had been terribly bullied in
college. He could
barely talk and was on antipsychotic medication. He made strange
mechanical movements with his head to ‘make the shapes go away’
(p. 249). A girl at
the college had fancied him, but he did not reciprocate, and she
became so vindictive that he began to break down, and finally,
he broke. Peterson
got him to talk and write about his life in subdivided units or
themes and then identify the events, positive and negative, that
shaped his life. In
other words, the young man was mining and updating his past
experiences for their true behavioural significance. Though naive,
‘Recollecting his life was putting him back together’ (p. 252). He too believed that
people were universally good.
He came to understand his tormentor’s anger at being
spurned, as well as his right to defend himself and tell the
true story. As he
worked through the memories and understood their significance
his psychotic symptoms receded.
People
commonly
worry about what lies ahead – issues at work, problems with
family and friends, financial and material survival, and so on. What to do, what
strategies are required, in what order? Or does paralysis set
in? We face a
multitude of prospects that can shape our future, from the
imaginary to the actual, from the future to the present. And there is an
ethical aspect. As
Peterson asks (p. 255), ‘Can anyone escape the pangs of
conscience at four o’clock in the morning after acting immorally
or destructively, or failing to act when action was necessary? And what is the source
of that inescapable conscience?’
Peterson, sadly, does not answer that question head on.
Instead,
he
moves on (p. 256) to discuss our ideas of ourselves as sovereign
individuals. We
voluntarily create and then determine the ethics of our choices. These are our stories,
we recall our starting points, the pitfalls and the successes of
the past – they are our teachers of the present and future. ‘Such information is
irresistible to us all. It is how (and why) we derive wisdom
from the risks taken by those before us, and who lived to tell
the story’ (p. 257).
Maybe
you
can feel the rumblings of something significant. You are right! Peterson asserts (p.
257), ‘The most fundamental stories of the West are to be found,
for better or worse, in the biblical corpus. That collection of
ancient and eminently influential books opens with God Himself,
in His Fatherly guise, portrayed as the ordered entity who
confronts chaos and creates habitable order in consequence.’ That is Genesis 1:2. Enter Jordan Peterson
dressed in his theological garb, explaining the Hebraic account
and mixing it with mythological creatures again like Tiamat and
Apsu. Starting with
creation, let us examine Peterson’s big points. God has an attribute,
the capacity for speech – ‘and God said.’ And He creates human
beings. Peterson
points (p. 259) to three fascinating features of that creation. There is, ‘… the
insistence that mankind is to have the dominion over the rest of
creation; the shocking and incomprehensively modern and
egalitarian insistence that God created man and woman equally in
His own image (stated twice; Genesis 1:27); and the equally
unlikely and miraculous insistence that the creation of humanity
was, like the rest of the Creation, good.’ That is all grandly
beguiling. But
Peterson then spoils himself with some gobbledegook about, ‘It
is that combination of Truth, Courage and Love comprising the
Ideal, whose active incarnation in each individual does in fact
take the potential of the future and make the best of it’ (p.
260). And, ‘Thus,
there is an ethical claim deeply embedded in the Genesis account
of creation: everything that emerges from the realm of
possibility in the act of creation (arguably, either divine or
human) is good insofar as the motive for its creation is good. I do not believe there
is a more daring argument in all of philosophy or in theology
than this: To believe this, to act it out, is the fundamental
act of faith.’ Then
Luke 11:9-13 is quoted and exegeted badly, as if ‘ask, seek and
knock’ were some humanist mantra.
Where is that sovereign grace of God towards undeserving
sinners? Peterson,
more at home in the psychologist’s office than the theologian’s
garret, closes (p. 262) with, ‘It is our destiny to transform
chaos into order. If
the past has not been ordered, the chaos it still constitutes
haunts us.’
If
old
memories still upset you, write them down carefully and
completely.
RULE
X Plan and work
diligently to maintain the romance in your relationship.
Now,
this
Rule looks exciting! Peterson
admits
he is not a couple’s therapist, but he does sometimes see both
partners together. It
can be tricky, as he explains (p. 266), ‘They are not happy, and
they hate me – maybe even more than they hate each other. They sit there,
distant, arms crossed and eyes rolling (hopefully not the
latter: that is a bad sign).
Neither will give an inch.
I suggest, nonetheless, that they try going out with each
other.’ This is
usually met with derision. However, Peterson persists (p. 266),
‘I know you are angry with each other, and probably for good
reason. I have met
both of you: I understand why you both feel that way. But just try it. You do not have to
like it. You do not
have to expect to be good at it, or give up your anger, or have
a good time. You
just have to tolerate it. They
both leave incensed at me for suggesting such an irritating
idea.’ They return
a week later to tell of their absolutely wretched date. ‘So, I ask: “That is
your plan, is it? You
are going to be married for sixty years. You put a small amount
of begrudging effort into having one date. Neither of you have
any skill at dating. Maybe
you need fifteen dates – or forty – because you have lost the
knack. This is a
skill you must learn, not an unearned gift from Cupid.”’ And, (p. 268), ‘Why
would you possibly assume that something as complex as
maintaining a marriage can be managed without commitment,
practice, and effort?’
‘The
sexual
aspect of a relationship can often tell us a great deal about
the whole, but not always’ (p. 269). ‘“Let us fix our sex
life” is a resolution too narrow in ambition to fulfil its aim. There must be a
broader, relationship-wide strategy in place to maintain romance
with your partner across time’ (p. 270). Negotiation,
discussion, courage, expression of wants and needs, truth and
trust are a few of the basic requirements. Peterson continues,
(p. 271), ‘Romance requires trust – and the deeper the trust,
the deeper the possibility for romance. So, the vow that makes
a marriage capable of preserving its romantic component is first
and foremost the decision not to lie to your partner. In a relationship
where romance remains intact, truth must be king’ (p. 272).
Peterson
describes
(p. 272) a friend’s wedding where the couple, ‘nominally
Christian’, exchange vows and hold a lit candle aloft. He makes a meal of its
symbolism including the creation of Eve (Genesis 2:21-22) from
Adam’s rib – woman from man, whereas biology teaches the
reverse, namely that men/boys are born of woman. And so mythological
speculation has it that (p. 273), ‘… Adam, the original man
produced by God, was hermaphroditic – half masculine and half
feminine’, denoting, at least in Peterson’s narrative, ‘… the
incompleteness of man and woman until each is brought together
with the other.’ The
role and imagery of the candle is further elaborated – two
people, one candle, held aloft, light, and so on. And there is a line of
speculation that because of Adam’s supposed hermaphroditic
nature that, ‘…Christ’s spiritual perfection being a consequence
of the ideal balance of the masculine and feminine elements’ (p.
274). Enough! Back to marriage.
Peterson
begins
(p. 276), ‘A marriage is a vow, and there is a reason for it. You announce jointly,
publicly: “I am not going to leave you, in sickness or health,
in poverty or wealth – and you are not going to leave me.”’ Peterson suggests it
is actually a threat: “We are not getting rid of each other, no
matter what.” And,
‘In principle, there is no escape.’ Having the option of
escape is perilous. ‘Do
you really want to keep asking yourself for the rest of your
life – because you would always have the option to leave – if
you made the right choice?’ Peterson
counters (p. 277), ‘But you do not find so much as make,
and if you do not know that you are in real trouble.’ Moreover, ‘You are not
going to get along with your partner – because you are different
people.’ ‘And not
only are you different from your partner, but you are rife with
inadequacies and so is he – or she.’ And those, ‘… locked
together in matrimony will face the mundane, quotidian, dull,
tragic, and terrible together, because life can be – and
certainly will be at some point – difficult to the point of
impossibility. It
is going to be tough. You
are going to have to negotiate in good faith, continually to
come to some sort of peaceful and productive accommodation.’ ‘There are three
fundamental states of social being: tyranny (you do what I
want), slavery (I do what you want), or negotiation’ (p. 278). The first two are not
good.
So
a
question arises (p. 279), ‘What is going to make you desperate
enough to negotiate. And
that is one of the mysteries that must be addressed if you want
to keep the romance alive in your relationship. Negotiation is
exceptionally difficult.’ You
ask and often the answer is, ‘I don’t know.’ That could be either a
genuine befuddlement, or a refusal to talk. Peterson’s assessment?
‘It [the latter] is
not rude. It is a
cruel act of love. Persistence
under such conditions is a necessity’ (p. 280). Anger (defence one)
and tears (defence two) may follow. What to do now? ‘Fight it out’, says
Peterson (p. 281). You
also need hope and desperation (p. 282). ‘You are stuck with
each other, if you are serious – and if you are not serious, you
are still a child.’ ‘That
is the point of the vow: the possibility of mutual salvation, or
the closest you can manage here on Earth.’ And you make it work
or you suffer miserably. Just
think, ‘You could have a marriage that works.’ ‘There are not many
genuine achievements of that magnitude in life. That is achievement one’
(p. 283).
Also
on
p. 283, Peterson handles a hot potato. ‘No one will speak the
truth about this. To
note outright that we lie to young women, in particular, about
what they are most likely to want in life is taboo in our
culture, with its incomprehensibly strange insistence that the
primary satisfaction in the typical person’s life is to be found
in career (a rarity in itself, as most people have jobs, not
careers). But it is
an uncommon woman, in my clinical and professional experience,
regardless of brilliance or talent, training, discipline,
parental desire, youthful delusion, or cultural brainwashing who
would not perform whatever sacrifice necessary to bring a child
into the world by the time she is twenty-nine, or thirty-five,
or worse, forty.’ And
he also warns, ‘But a successful pregnancy is not a foregone
conclusion, not by any stretch of the imagination – but up to 30
percent of couples experience trouble becoming pregnant.’ No wonder Peterson is
widely regarded as a renegade with a cause.
Then
Peterson
tackles (p. 284) another of those hot potatoes – the delusion
that a romantic affair will address unmet needs. He starts, ‘Let us
think it through, all the way.
Not just for this week, or this month. You are fifty. You have this
twenty-four-year-old, and she is willing to break up your
marriage. What is
she thinking? Who
must she be? What
does she know?’ ‘“Well,
I am really attracted to her.”’
‘Yes, but she has a personality disorder. Seriously, because
what the hell is she doing with you, and why is she willing to
break up this marriage?’ ‘“Well,
she does not care if I stay married.”’ ‘Oh, I see. So, she does not want
to have an actual relationship with someone, with any degree of
long-term permanency. Somehow
that is going to work out well for you, is it? Just think about that. It is going to be a
little rough on your wife.
A lot of lies are going to go along with that. You have children – how
are they going to respond when all this comes out, as it most
certainly will? And
what do you think about the ten years in court that are now
beckoning, that are going to cost you a third of a million
dollars and put you in a custody battle that will occupy all
your time and attention?’ Go
Jordan, go! The
rest of the adult male population should read the rest of
Peterson’s writing on this topic.
And his succeeding piece on another hot potato –
cohabiting. Here is
a snippet from p. 287, ‘Cohabitation without the promise of
permanent commitment, socially announced, ceremonially
established, seriously considered, does not produce more robust
marriages. And
there is nothing good about that.’
Now
(p.
289), what about the domestic economy – traditional roles of men
and women? The old
‘sense of duty’ provided a template and if no template exists it
needs to be argued about. For
instance, who is going to do what?
Who is going to make the bed, or feed the cat? If it is not sorted
out, then it is a problem every morning for the next sixty
years. And there
are, at least, two hundred other issues to resolve. If not dealt with,
your romantic endeavours will suffer. Then you must, ‘…
actually talk to your partner for about ninety minutes a week,
purely about practical and personal matters – well, that’s what
Peterson reckons (p. 292).
What is happening to you at work? What needs to be done
around the house? That
sort of thing. Remember,
we all have a story. ‘To
know your story, you must tell it, and, for your partner to know
it, he or she must hear it.’
Otherwise, ‘… your relationship loses its coherence.’ ‘Start by getting
these things straight, and see what happens. Then you will have
peaceful mealtimes’ (p. 293).
‘You will have to fight for such an accomplishment. What matters, however,
is not whether you fight (because you have to fight), but
whether you make peace as a consequence. To make peace is a
negotiated solution’ (p. 294).
Recall that immature question you once asked, ‘Is there
someone out there perfect for me?’
No, says Peterson (p. 295), ‘There are just people out
there who are damaged – quite severely, although not always
irreparably.’ ‘Thus,
you get married, if you have any courage … and you start to
transform the two of you into one reasonable person.’
‘Romance
is
play’, says the author on p. 296, ‘and play does not take place
easily when problems of any sort arise. Play requires peace,
and peace requires negotiation.’
And, ‘The issue of marital romance – intimacy and sex- is
a complex one.’ For
instance, Peterson observes (p. 297), ‘… that the typical adult
couple … might manage once or twice a week, or even three times
a week (not likely) for a reasonable romantic interlude. Zero is bad.’ ‘There is still plenty
of effort required, unless you want the romance to vanish’ (p.
298). Peterson is a
fan of candles, perfume, music, attractive clothing, a
compliment or two, and soft lighting. And (p. 299), ‘Here is
a rule: do not ever punish your partner for doing something you
want them to continue doing.
Particularly if it took some real courage ... to manage.’ ‘And then, maybe, you
could both have what you need, and maybe even what you want’ (p.
300).
Plan
and
work diligently to maintain the romance in your relationship.
RULE
XI Do not allow
yourself to become resentful, deceitful, or arrogant.
We
all
have our reasons for being caught by that triad of resentment,
deceit and arrogance – our grief, dashed dreams, agony of
conscience, betrayal – you name them. How they erode us. ‘How could you not
degenerate?’ Peterson
comes
to the rescue, ‘I want you to know how you might resist that
decline, that degeneration into evil’ (p. 303). He starts, ‘What is
the world made of?’ Answers
will include the physical and the psychological that point to
‘the realm of unrealized possibility’ (p. 305), both good and
bad. And it is,
perhaps strange, though true, that we concentrate on the future
rather than the present, on possibility rather than actuality. After all, it is the
future and possibility that we have to contend with. But how can we contend
with something unknown and, as yet, unexpressed? Peterson answers (p.
306), ‘… by communicating through stories about what is and,
equally, what could be.' And
(p. 306), ‘We naturally think of our lives as stories, and
communicate about our experience in that same manner. We tell people
automatically where we are … and where we are going.’ But that story is more
than just a sequence of events, it includes how we perceive,
evaluate, think, and act – and, when you do so, a story unfolds. ‘Could that mean that
the world of experience is, in truth, indistinguishable from a
story?’, asks Peterson (p. 307).
Or, ‘You might argue, contrarily, that the scientific
view of the world is more accurate. Peterson is not
convinced – he thinks science is, ‘nested inside a story:
one that goes something like “careful and unbiased pursuit of
the truth will make the world a better place for all people,
reducing suffering, extending life, and producing wealth” (p.
307). In other
words, he remains a story-man.
Is
this
too vague and ambiguous? Let
Peterson
explain (p. 308), ‘We conceptualize what we experience as a
story. That story
is, roughly speaking, the description of the place we are at
right now, as well as the place that we are going to, the
strategies and adventures that we implement and experience along
the way, and our downfalls and reconstitutions during that
journey.’ We think
in stories – think about that!
We think in social categories, like close friendship, not
in objective categories, like the periodic table. Think how children
love a good story, sometimes the same one every night. To press
home this truism, Peterson proceeds to critique Pinocchio
and Sleeping Beauty, especially the bits where Monstro
and the Evil Queen become the Dragons of Chaos. Let’s pass on.
We
all
have an image of nature. It
has two facets. Its
benevolence, with its attractiveness whereby you are fed and
made happy. And its
horror, with its destruction, disease, and death. ‘These two elements of
experience exist side by side’ (p. 317). Peterson explains,
‘Both these elements of existence manifest themselves in our
imagination in personified form.
One is the Evil Queen, the Goddess of Destruction and
Death; the other is her positive counterpart, the Fairy
Godmother, the benevolent monarch.
To live properly, you need to be acquainted with both
these figures.’
‘Nature
is
chaos, too, because it is always wreaking havoc with culture,
its existential opposite’ (p. 319). ‘But all that is not
to say, ever, that chaos is of less value than order.’ Peterson is apparently
a Disney aficionado. He
draws on the nature/chaos in Sleeping Beauty, The
Little Mermaid, Snow White, One Hundred and One
Dalmatians, Cinderella, and more. And here is the
argument Peterson is making – ensure your children are
conversant with the existence of both sides, good and evil. ‘And if you shelter
young people, you destroy them’ (p. 321). Harsh, but probably
true. Peterson
gives the example, (p. 321) of one of his sheltered clients, a
real-life Sleeping Beauty, profoundly unhappy, suicidal, vegan,
smart and literate, unable to deal with the cruelty she saw
everywhere. She was
a fairy-tale princess, her stepmother was ‘a holy terror’. This was Peterson’s
plan to overcome her fear of life.
He took her to a butcher’s shop, a weekend stay on an
animal farm and a possible visit to a slaughter house. A week later she
announced, ‘I think I want to see an embalming.’ Peterson arranged it. She was certainly
toughening up! She
managed the experience. She
had learned to tolerate her terrors of life.
We
interpret
the present through the lens of culture. We plan for the future
using what we have learned.
Sometimes that approach is too rigid – Peterson says (p.
329) it, ‘… can blind us to the value of novelty, creativity,
and change.’ He
introduces two more imaginary characters, the Wise King and the
Authoritarian Tyrant – we need to become aware of both, he says. And he introduces (p.
331), aspects of the biology, behaviour and ideology of the
conservative and the liberal, including their approaches to the
old and the new, stability or change, order versus chaos. The problem is, when
does something need to be preserved and when does something need
to be transformed? That
is why we have politics and dialogue and discussion and
judgement. As
Peterson puts it (p. 333), ‘So there are two different
ideologies – both of which are “correct”, but each of which tell
only half the story.’
Peterson
goes
on (p. 334) to describe the individual as both hero and
adversary, with their positive and the negative features. Mythologically, they
are portrayed as brothers, while archetypically, they are
personified as Cain and Abel, and even more fundamentally as
Christ and Satan. Peterson
posits (p. 334), the structure of the world in six characters –
‘a hero and an adversary; a wise king and a tyrant; a positive
and a negative maternal figure; and chaos itself.’ The last may seem odd,
but Peterson includes it as, ‘… in some sense the ultimate
birthplace of all the others.’ He
asserts, ‘It is necessary to understand that all seven exist’
and he says (p. 335), ‘That is life – they are life. Partial knowledge of
the cast, conscious or unconscious, leaves you undefended;
leaves you naive, unprepared, and likely to become possessed by
deceit, resentment, and arrogance.’ And then bizarrely,
‘If you do not know that the treasure is guarded by a dragon …
then you are first, a needy acolyte … and second, someone
blind…’ What? Move on!
What
is
this resentment? Peterson
defines it (p. 338) as, ‘… that terrible hybrid emotional state,
an admixture of anger and self-pity, tinged, to various degrees,
with narcissism and the desire for revenge.’ But as you understand
the world and its players, an appropriate question might be,
“Why is not everyone resentful about everything all of the
time?” After all,
ponder, ‘… the brute force of nature, the tyranny of culture,
and the malevolence of your own nature. It is no wonder you
might feel resentful’ (p. 339).
Yet not everyone falls prey to resentment and deems
themselves to be a victim.
Moreover, it is typically resentful people who enquire,
‘Why me?’ as if they have been subjected to an injustice rather
than a random event, such as cancer or a car accident. Confronting such
realities, being realistic, will shrink your resentment.
Peterson
expounds
(p. 343) two forms of deceit: ‘sin of commission, the things you
do knowing full well they are wrong; and sins of omission, which
are things you merely let slide.’
Consider in addition that threesome, deceit, resentment
and arrogance – get your ducks in a row. They are
co-conspirators. First,
deceit and arrogance are, according to Peterson (p. 344), ‘… a
denial … of the relationship between divinity, truth and
goodness.’ He turns
to the early chapters of Genesis where God ‘creates habitable
chaos out of order.’ ‘Courage,
love and truth’ are the drivers and the ultimate outcome is Good
– ‘the very best that love would demand.’ Arrogance and deceit
oppose this idea. The
second form of arrogance is associated with ‘the power of
divinity itself,’ (p. 345).
‘This means that the deceitful individual has taken it
upon him or herself to alter the very structure of reality.’ The third form (p,
346) assumes that, ‘… the deceitful act will stand on its own
powerfully’, and when believed has, ‘… somehow permanently
altered the form of the world.’
The fourth form of arrogance invokes a warped sense of
justice. Hear it
as, “I can do what I want because I have been unfairly treated”
(p. 346). ‘All that
line of reasoning does, however, is make life worse.’ If you misbehaved
because your life was bad, then continuing to misbehave serves
no good purpose.
Why
would
you stand idly by when you know something demands your
attention? Peterson
says (p. 347) there are a variety of reasons. The first is nihilism
– everything is meaningless.
Second, it is justifiable to take the easy path – it is
someone else’s responsibility.
Third, a lack of faith in yourself – because of your
self-knowledge of human vulnerability. Peterson calls upon
the Fall (Genesis 3:12) to explain (p. 349). ‘When called upon
later to account for his behavior – for eating the forbidden
fruit – Adam blames the woman.
The first man’s refusal to take responsibility for his
actions is associated with resentment (for his acquisition of
painful knowledge), deceit (for he knows he made a free choice,
regardless of his wife’s behavior), and arrogance (he dares to
blame God and the woman divinity created. Adam takes the easy
way out.’
Proverbs
9:10
states, ‘The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.’ Peterson turns it this
way (p. 350), ‘If you understand that deception corrupts and
distorts the function of the most fundamental instinct that
guides you through the difficulties of life, that prospect
should scare you enough so that you remain careful in what you
say and do.’ In
other words, lies and deceit and arrogance will wreck your
‘meaningful instinct’, your rules for right and wrong, your
dictates of conscience. Over
time, if you get away with it, you will become addicted to
propagating it. Therefore,
confront it and stop it, now.
Do
not
allow yourself to become resentful, deceitful, or arrogant.
RULE
XII Be grateful
in spite of your suffering.
Peterson
admits
(p. 355) that for decades he has been searching for certainty. He has been looking in
several places, and, as this book shows, he has defined certain
universal ground rules. For
example, he writes, ‘However, even though I regard the
inevitability of suffering and its exaggeration by malevolence
as unshakeable existential truths, I believe even more deeply
that people have the ability to transcend their suffering,
psychologically and practically, and to constrain their own
malevolence, as well as the evils that characterize the social
and natural worlds.’ In
other words, though the world and its people are distinguished
by sin and suffering, they have capacity to confront, and the
courage and skills to ameliorate, some of its effects. This is common grace
at work. Moreover,
let none dismiss, or discount, the benevolent effects of
Christianity in terms of theological understanding and as
inspirer of positive action.
Hospitals, schools, welfare, justice, healthcare,
sanitation, marriage, and so on did not materialise from
nowhere.
Peterson
is
also adamant that people are not fully armed to respond unless
they have experienced something of the heavy weight of
existence. Until
deep loss, betrayal, hurt, disappointment, and so on have been
experienced people cannot be ready to take on the challenges of
malevolence internally (in their own brains and lives) and
externally (in the big wide world). As he write (p. 358),
‘Thus, you look in dark places to protect yourself, in case the
darkness ever appears, as well as to find the light. There is real utility
in that.’
Moving
on
(p. 358) to Goethe and his famous play Faust – the
man who sold his soul to Mephistopheles, the Devil, for
knowledge. Peterson
puts it as, ‘There is something in all of us that works in
counterposition to our voluntarily expressed desires.’ That leads to (p.
359), ‘If you are not in control of yourself, who or what is?’ ‘And what is that who or what that is not you up
to? And toward what
end is it acting?’ and ‘And you are you, after all, and you
should – virtually by definition – be in control of yourself.’ This is ‘deeply
mysterious’. Peterson
defines that part of the problem as, ‘It is not just that you
are lazy: it is also that you are bad – and declared so by your
own judgment.’ ‘That
is a very unpleasant realization, but there is no hope of
becoming good without it.’
‘You will upbraid yourself … for your own shortcomings.’ ‘You will treat
yourself as if you were or at least in part an immoral agent.’ What is this
adversarial force at work within you? Peterson answers (p.
360), ‘The Christian conception of the great figure of evil –
Mephistopheles, Satan, Lucifer, the devil himself – is, for
example, a profound imaginative personification of that spirit. But the adversary in
not merely something that exists in the imagination.’ Each of us has our own
‘intrinsic mortal limitations’, and they produce ‘… a certain
self-contempt or disgust inspired by our own weaknesses and
inadequacies.’ In a
way we are all ‘possessed’.
‘Given all these disappointing realizations, there is no
reason to assume that you are going to be satisfied or happy
with yourself.’ Is
this Peterson trying to explain in non-Christian terms the
recognition of personal sin and the need for repentance before
God? That is a big
question. And the
big answer is that there is a way out of such ‘self-directed
antagonism’.
For
the
Christian, with his biblical understanding of life and death, it
is no wonder that all people find life such a struggle. Peterson interestingly
directs (p. 362) readers to Matthew 27:46 and Christ’s words,
“My God, my God, why has thou forsaken me?” ‘This appears to imply
strongly, in its narrative way, that the burden of life can
become so great that even God Himself can lose faith when
confronted with the unbearable reality of injustice, betrayal,
suffering, and death.’ Dr
Peterson, yours is a decent shot at one level, but it misses the
real bull’s eye of the Cross, namely the forensic transaction of
substitution and the entrance of divine forgiveness and the
finalisation of personal salvation. That is far more than
a parody of human bad feelings.
Peterson
continues
(p. 362) by looking at the antinatalists, those who regard the
whole miserable frailty of human existence warrants an end,
therefore they say that human reproduction should be ceased. Then, taking a more
individualistic approach, he comments on the awfulness of
suicide and mass killings, like those carried out at the
Columbine High School in 1999.
They have a common root – they are the supposed answers
to a bad and mad world and its people that seemingly cannot be
improved, therefore they should be terminated. In a brighter vein (p.
365), Peterson presents some insightful and practical thinking
about the death of a loved one and the need for, and the
function of, expressed grief. [He
also returns to this key topic on p. 371]. In part, he suggests, ‘…
that it is useful to consciously take on the task of being the
most reliable person in the aftermath of the death, during the
grief-stricken preparations for the funeral and the funeral
itself, and for the care of family members during and after the
catastrophe.’ I
have tried that recently, and it helps, but what was of greater
comfort was knowing that the deceased was a believer at rest in
heaven.
According
to
Peterson (p. 369), ‘The temptation to become embittered is great
and real. It
requires a genuine moral effort not to take that path.’ However, if, ‘… you
can see the structure of the world, bitterness and resentment
beckon as a viable response.
Then you might well ask yourself, “Well, why not walk
down that dark path?”’ Peterson’s
answer is ‘courage’. ‘Despite
the burden of my awake mortality, I am going to work for the
good of the world’ (p. 370).
So, it is, ‘… onward and upward – and that is precisely
the impossible moral undertaking that is demanded from each of
us for the world to function properly.’ This is a good and
upright proposition, but it is also loaded with questions. Such as, who has
‘demanded’? What is
‘impossible’ and what therefore is ‘possible’? What is needed is a
compass and a road map – can you see the genius of Christianity
with its Bible?
And
finally,
how to get on with your family (p. 372). ‘In any familial
gathering there is tension between the warmth you feel and the
bonding of memory and shared experience, and the sorrow
inevitably accompanying that.’
They are suffering, ageing, going awry, and so on. ‘But, the fundamental
conclusion, despite all of that, is that “It is good that we are
all together and able to share a meal, and see and talk to each
other, and to note that we are all here and facing this
celebration or difficulty together” (p. 373). ‘The same is true of
your relationship with your children.’ Children are beings of
tremendous potential, but they are also truly fragile. And that fragility
never entirely disappears from a parent’s perspective. ‘All that is part of
the joy of having them, but also part of the pain.’ And (p. 374), ‘There
is an undeniable vulnerability around children that wakes you up
and makes you very conscious of the desire to protect them, but
also of the desire to foster their autonomy and push them out in
the world, because that is how you strengthen them.’ And a word about the
elderly, ‘But it is necessary to understand that, just as in the
case of children, all those particularities, fragilities, and
limitations are part and parcel of what it is that you come to
love. So, you might
love people despite their limitations, but you also love then because of their
limitations.’ Oh, I
do hope so!
In
conclusion
These
pages
have been not so much a review, more a synopsis with comments. They contain some 200
direct quotations – apologies for the tedium of the page numbers
– because I wanted to let Peterson speak so that readers could
hear him.
For
me,
Beyond Order has been a tougher, more demanding read
than Peterson’s 12 Rules.
At times it was a tussle.
It is more vague, more psychologically-based, less
grounded, less structured and in several places, just plain
weird. For those
reasons, I am not sure that it will command such a huge
following, especially from those legions of disillusioned young
men, who flocked to, and were greatly helped by 12 Rules. The latter contained
crisp, comprehensible Rules like, ‘Stand up straight with your
shoulders back’, the new Rules are more opaque, in both title
and content like, ‘Do not hide unwanted things in the fog.’
Unsurprisingly,
Peterson’s
major themes reappear – the world is malevolent, living is a
struggle, life requires meaning, confront your problems, aim
high at something. And
while belief in God may help some, Peterson basically leaves you
on your own – after all, his books are catalogued in the
self-help genre.
For
many
the launch of this new book raises a key question – has Jordan
B. Peterson made progress in his searching for God over the
three years since his 12 Rules book? Sadly, I see no
convincing evidence of advance.
There is no doubt that he is still enamoured by the
things of God, as demonstrated by his extensive citing of
Scripture. He
particularly references Genesis because, like all of us, he is
fascinated by beginnings and creation. But his uses of
biblical themes are mostly mixed up with tales from ancient
mythologies and sagas from modern Disney films – this is an
unhelpful trend. I
understand his desire to develop an overarching philosophy that
encompasses all knowledge, but his bending of Bible narratives
to fit his predetermined model is counterproductive. The 66 books of the
Bible and the 7 books of Harry Potter are not equivalent, nor
are Christ and Nietzsche.
Peterson
has
now become a major public intellectual of the twenty-first
century, yet he remains a Renaissance man, happily gathering
eclectic thoughts, aspiring to polymath status, but instead
attaining only a cluttered set of unmoored principles and
morals. Essentially,
Peterson is a collector of stories, an iconoclast, who cannot
bring himself to separate myth from reality, or biblical truth
from artistry. For
him, there is too much attractive stuff going on out there, and
he wants it all, lock, stock and barrel, without much sifting. It is reminiscent of the
Enlightenment’s doomed attempt at Christian virtue without
embracing Christian truth –
wanting the fruits without the roots. Yet
curiously his stark conclusions often parallel those of the
Bible – the world is bad, society is bad, individuals are bad. Therefore, to escape
all this malevolence, we need a rescuer, a saviour. So, is the redeemer we
desperately need to be secular or divine? Will it be me, or
Christ? Peterson
cannot yet bring himself to proclaim the latter.
These
Bible-Peterson
parallels extend far and deep.
Take for example, Peterson’s statement in Rule XII (pp.
359- 360) that, ‘There is something in all of us that works in
counterposition to our voluntarily expressed desires.’ ‘If you are not in
control of yourself, who or what is?’ ‘And you are you,
after all, and you should – virtually by definition – be in
control of yourself.’ ‘It
is not just that you are lazy: it is also that you are bad – and
declared so by your own judgment.’
‘That is a very unpleasant realization, but there is no
hope of becoming good without it.’
‘You will upbraid yourself … for your own shortcomings.’ ‘You will treat
yourself as if you were or at least in part an immoral agent.’ ‘What is this
adversarial force at work within you?’ ‘But the adversary in
not merely something that exists in the imagination.’ ‘Each of us has our
own “intrinsic mortal limitations”, and they produce … a certain
self-contempt or disgust inspired by our own weaknesses and
inadequacies.’ That
diagnosis of human nature is spot on. So is this Peterson
trying to explain in non-Christian terms the realisation of the
horrors of personal sin and for a cure, the necessary subsequent
repentance towards God? That
is a big question.
Despite
his
trips into spheres of fantasy, Peterson still inhabits the real
world – he can still be stern, even harsh. For example, if your
job is strangling your ethical principles, he says, leave it. That is not
comfortable advice for the sole breadwinner with three children. And, if your spouse’s
habits annoy you, have the fight of negotiation, albeit it
non-physically. His
insistence of confronting such issues, rather than letting them
moulder for decades, is tip-top tuition.
Beyond
Order
does contain first-class things.
I think the best is to be found in Rule X. It should be
compulsory reading for those who are already married and those
contemplating joining that (not always happy) estate. Here Peterson makes a
concerted effort to introduce and/or maintain romance within
marriage, with serious practical guidance. And he does that
because he believes that traditional marriage is the finest
human relationship available.
I was surprised and delighted by his defence and
promotion of the matrimonial state. It was heartening. By the same token,
Peterson competently condemns the shallowness and dangers of
cohabitation.
Beyond
Order
does contain annoying things.
For instance, it is irritatingly so middle class. Of course, its author
is part of that demographic, though probably by now he is an
upper-class millionaire. Yet,
he does have that North American fixation on university
education and the classic career goals of lawyer, doctor, or
social worker. Why,
he even swanks that ‘most people have jobs, not careers’. Though he does try to
‘get down with the kids’ by describing his semidetached house as
‘small’.
Like
legions
of others, who have viewed Peterson’s YouTube videos over 200
million times, I have been entertained, educated and enchanted. I like him. He is affable,
charismatic and opinionated.
But now he is almost a broken man. He is a shadow of his
former ebullient self. His
health is poor, his daily routine, long and slow. He tears up easily. And he now admits
that,
‘I'm the most confused person I've ever met.’
Yet interestingly, I was pleased to hear, on a recent (March
2021) YouTube video that he is terrified that God might exist
and therefore Christianity is true, because it will make huge
demands upon his life. That
resonates with the picture from Luke 14:28 of counting the cost
of Christian discipleship before signing up. Moreover, while he
still appears to be the devout disciple of all things Jungian,
Beyond Order contains less references to the Swiss
psychoanalyst than to Jesus Christ. Am I clutching at
straws? And there
again he regularly misuses the name of God, if not exactly in
vain, then with a certain lack of due respect. Is this not indicative
of a state of mind that is neither reverent nor fearful? Peterson’s head and
heart condition remains an unknown.
So
what
are the minimum requirements of belief to be labelled a
Christian? Not a
lot. ‘Everyone who
calls on the name of the Lord will be saved’ (Romans 10:13), or
‘Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved’ (Acts 16:31),
or ‘If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe
in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be
saved. For it is
with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is
with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved’
(Romans 10:9-10). Come
on, Jordan.